Symbolic Acts at a Humanist Wedding | Lighting a Unity Candle

Humanist wedding ceremonies may include symbolic acts of your choice, and one of the more popular amongst couples in recent years has been the lighting of a ‘unity candle’.

In this modern non-religious ritual, a couple takes a lighted candle and together light a larger candle to symbolise ‘two becoming one’.

Lighting a unity candle at a humanist wedding. Photo: Simple Tapestry

Rituals don’t have to come from a religion. They reflect a human love of storytelling, and they can simply be part of the occasion you’ve devised to help tell a story to your friends and loved ones. The unity candle is a classic example in this genre – a brilliant way to make your wedding memorable, unique, and full of feeling for everyone involved.

Couples with children may choose to invite all members of the family to join in lighting the unity candle. With a humanist ceremony, all options are open to you, and a humanist celebrant will work with you to help make the ceremony a perfect reflection of what you want your wedding to look like, the message you want to convey, and how you want your guests to feel.

Humanist celebrants are full of ideas – like unity candles, handfastings, and symbolic knot-tying – to help you bring your unique love story to life and create your dream wedding.


What is a humanist?

Humanists are non-religious people who believe that this life is the only life we have, that the universe is a natural phenomenon with no supernatural side, and that we can live ethical and fulfilling lives on the basis of reason and humanity. They have trusted to the scientific method, evidence, and reason to discover truths about the universe and have placed human welfare and happiness at the centre of their ethical decision-making. Stephen Fry explains humanism in this short video.

Humanists are non-religious people who believe that this life is the only life we have, that the universe is a natural phenomenon with no supernatural side, and that we can live ethical and fulfilling lives on the basis of reason and humanity. They have trusted to the scientific method, evidence, and reason to discover truths about the universe and have placed human welfare and happiness at the centre of their ethical decision-making. Stephen Fry explains humanism in this short video.

A humanist wedding is ideal for couples who want a non-religious wedding that is unique, personalised,  and meaningful.

How do you know if you’re a humanist? You’re invited to take our quiz and find out.

Interested in discussing your humanist wedding? Talk to your local celebrant today.

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